The Five Major Life Lessons I Learned at Age 25
Updated: Aug 27, 2019
This is how it happened, I kid you not- One day I was 12 then I was 18, then 21 and then 25. Funny right? All I seem to remember fully is leaving Primary School, leaving High School, leaving College and then waking up as a 25 year old. You can probably tell already but 25 hit me really hard. In my younger years 25 seemed like such a distant dream that would take eons to arrive. I often envisioned my life at twenty-five to be one of luxury; you know with the dream car, dream house, dream job, dream husband (at least something worked out). I never imagined the lessons that I would learn and how differently my life would actually turn out to be at twenty-five.
Let's get started on the life lessons that I learned at age 25.
1. Life goes on-
This is very important! Whenever we experience changes in our lives especially in our younger years we tend to believe that it is the end of the world. Trust me, I'm not trying to say that your problems aren't real but honestly there are bigger problems in this world than the guy who broke your heart or even ghosted you. Do not spend all your time and effort on trivial matters, let go and move on.
2. It's okay to focus on you and what you want to do-
I wish I knew this long before my 25th birthday because it would have saved me so much time. My friends, you cannot live your life trying to make everyone else happy while you drown in sadness and loneliness or misery. It simply does not make any sense at all. Whatever your dreams are go for them! I'm not telling you to go out of your way to hurt people but you must also be able to make some decisions with YOUR best interest at heart.
3. Some friendships are only meant to last for a season-
I didn't have many friends growing up but I still had to learn this lesson. While in University I was a part of multiple groups, so I always had people around that I could share some of my thoughts with. The world of work however drastically reduced this already small number and I was again forced to try to make new connections. I met some really great people then but again I still had to move on from those interactions when I ventured into other areas of my life. The bottom line is, a lot of people you make connections and friendships with might only be there for a single season of your life. Once the season is finished, either you will leave or they will. Don't get scared this is a natural part of your growth. I advise that you treat the people that you meet well as nothing really lasts forever and you never know who is meant to stay in your life.
4. You don't have all the time in the world-
You probably saw the timeline at the start of the blog and if you didn't, take a look at it again. At the start of each new year, January feels like it will never end. After a long wait it finally ends and with it goes the rest of the year. It literally goes, January, January, January, wow, Christmas is here again. Ultimately, each day that you get to see is a gift and it should be treated as such. Sure, you might not be where you want to be financially, emotionally etc. but it should not stop you from being grateful for life as a whole.
5. True fulfillment comes from adding value to the lives of others-
This was and still is one of the most amazing discoveries that I made even before 25. Life is filled with opportunities to learn something brand new and to share with others as well. In whatever you can do, try to add value to the lives of others in whatever way you can. This might sound like a selfish reason but it helps YOUR mind and it gives YOU purpose so just do it because it really isn't that hard.
"Fall seven times and stand up eight."-Japanese Proverb